In the Spirit of Thanksgiving

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As many of us do, I love the holidays. There’s something about the weather, family time and Christmas music playing everywhere, oh and lets not forget the FOOD. What I also love about this time is that it shows us how fast time passes by and reminds us to slow down-to live every moment to the fullest and dedicate the remaining of the year to those you love. There are so many things I am personally grateful for which honestly I don’t really want to list here because the list is endless and I might forget something as I am writing this now. However, one of the things that I continue to strive for is to be intentional with my time. It is not always easy especially with everything I have going on but it so important. My husband is so much better at this than me when it comes to our daughter and I love that he challenges me daily to be the best mom I can be. By challenging me I mean by example. I tend to be a perfectionist and as mentioned in a previous post I am a common over commitment offender. However, I am happy to report that I have become a lot better at this and have learned the power of saying no. Honestly, saying no is so important to not only keep your sanity but for your overall happiness. It comes down to what I mentioned at the beginning- intentionality with your time. Don’t focus on what you didn’t get done today; that your house is a mess that you were late to a dinner etc. focus 100% on what you are doing in the present moment without distractions. It is hard but it is one of the best gifts you can give to yourself and those who are around you.

 

May you all have a Happy Thanksgiving surrounded by LOVE. I leave you here with one of my favorite looks this season. I love the color of this sweater, not only is it warm but extremely affordable. 😉

With Love,

Dani

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Instagram Roundup

Happy Wednesday Everyone!

I am doing an Instagram roundup of the last couple of outfits I have posted about. Most importantly I want to dedicate this post to my AMAZING photographer and dear friend Steve Oum. If you are in California definitely consider booking him. He has a great eye for photography, so fun to work with and gives you great direction. He dedicates the amount of time needed and does not charge per hour because he values quality over quantity. Most pictures featured below are taken by him a few were taken on my iphone (excuse the poor quality).

Check his website out here http://sajinistphoto.com/

With Love,

Dani

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Blanket Scarf | White Tee | Booties

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Dress | Wedges

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Top | Leggings

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Dress (old) Similar here

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Dress (old) similar here

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Baby Hat (similar here)

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Dress| Shoes

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Hey Everyone,

In today’s post I wanted to focus on social interconnectedness. The importance we all play in the grander scheme of things. One of the things that I love about my graduate degree program is that it focuses a lot on self-reflection and emphasizes the importance of social justice. There are so many people in our everyday life who think that they are insignificant. While we all know for the most part that this is false it does not change our subjective reality. Some of us think to ourselves, “What can I actually do? There’s no way I can do anything that would even evoke significant change”.  Most often than not we choose to do nothing due to this mentality.  Especially with today being Election Day I cannot stress enough the vital role each and every one of us play.  We are all connected and every action including inaction affects us all as a whole.  As South African social rights activist Desmond Tutu said “If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor.”  This is so crucial because in our current reality there are so many unimaginable injustices occurring here in America, the land of the “free” and so many people have become desensitized and have chosen neutrality.  Ignoring the problem will not make it go away. I completely understand the feeling of helplessness and wondering how much of a difference we can actually make individually but if our ancestors thought that way women would not have the right to vote today. This is just one example of how people chose to act on injustices rather than sit back and think “whatever I do will not be significant”. So what can you do? Something as simple as changing your language will be beneficial on so many levels, not only to you but to those around you. What you say or think you eventually believe and these beliefs influence your actions. So start thinking positively, let that fear go, remove phrases from your vocabulary such as “I can’t”, “I’m not worthy”, “I won’t make a difference”, “It’s hopeless” and the list goes on and on. I invite you to take that risk and have the courage to fight the system that is designed to keep you down and prevent your bright light from shining.  Most importantly know that YOU are not only worthy but an ESSENTIAL part to our community. Now everyone- EXERCISE YOUR RIGHT TO VOTE. The future of this country depends on you.

With Love,

Dani

Ps. Feel free to post your comments. The point is to start the conversation and bring awareness so it is no longer a “shocker” when so many of these issues are so prevalent in our society.

Fall is finally here in LA

 

It finally feels like fall here in Los Angeles. I’m loving this weather because I can finally wear scarves and boots, my FAVORITE. I’m definitely going to take advantage of whatever fall weather we have because it has been feeling like the middle of summer lately- I know what a problem we have here in LA.  😉

I wanted to share this look with all of you because it is simple, comfortable and BUDGET FRIENDLY. These booties are currently 40% off!

These days with an 11 month old I value comfort more than anything so I get really excited when I find something cute and comfortable at a great price. Best part about this outfit featured here is that everything worn is versatile and can be worn with a variety of different outfits. Check it out. 🙂

What are some of your favorite fall outfits or accessories?

With Love,

Dani

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Blanket Scarf | White Tee | Booties

Family and Good Friends

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Hey Everyone-

This past weekend was filled with family and good friends that filled my heart with so much happiness. It is true when they say to surround yourself with people who lift you up because you definitely feel like you can conquer the world. The best part is that you have more space and time to do things because you are in a good place; it is a win-win situation.  Victoria and I went to visit my grandparents who live 2 hours away from us which we haven’t done in several months, and although I almost opted not to go I am so glad we went.  In my world I am constantly on the go and juggling 2 or 3 things at a time that the single thought of driving for 2 hours there and 2 hours back never sounds enticing.  My mom drives there once a month and I have used every excuse in the book for the last several months as to why we can’t go but finally I ran out of excuses.  I am so happy I finally did and made the trip out there because it was so rewarding. Once I was there it made me realize just how lucky I truly am to still have my grandparents with me, they hold a very special place in my heart. I grew up with my grandparents and have never called them grandma and grandpa. Since a little girl I’ve called them mom and dad because that is how I see them.  With life being so hectic it is so easy to lose sight of the truly important things.  Time is the most valuable gift you can give to someone. I definitely want to visit more often because not only does it make their day when we visit but I feel that I benefit more and I just love watching Victoria be able to enjoy her great grandparents. When I take the time to reflect- yes it might be a long drive and I might have a paper to write or some cleaning to do or a billion other things that have to get done but those things don’t even come close to being as important as spending time with family. Especially since my grandparents aren’t getting any younger. We had such a good time and I came back and was able to be more productive than I normally am when I stay behind- funny how that happens.

Our weekend followed with a fun day at the park on Sunday with two amazing human beings and their children. Seriously I love these mommies so much and they are such great role models. Also, very true when they say surround yourself with people that reflect who you want to be and how you want to feel because energies are contagious and I LOVE being around these girls. They are positive, hardworking and above all incredible mothers. Needless to say I am still on a high from this weekend and definitely need to make more time for moments like these.  At this point of my life, I definitely see it as a time of collecting memories with my Victoria, quality over quantity always. In order to do this I have to take a step back to analyze where my time is being spent and then adjust accordingly because when life gets crazy I start running on autopilot and can easily overlook important things. Cultivating and creating abundance is giving and receiving and as mentioned previously the best thing you can give someone is your time.

The dress I am wearing below is what I wore to visit my grandparents this past weekend. It’s light and very comfortable but unfortunately is sold out, however  I have linked similar styles below and they are all under $30. 🙂

With Love,

Dani

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Dress (sold out) but you can find similar style here and here.

 

Dreams Don’t Work Unless You Do

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It’s been a while since I had a chance to write again-well for my blog because I have been doing plenty of writing for school (lol).  I must admit that it has been a challenge transitioning in to graduate school while still maintaining all my other responsibilities.  I knew it was definitely not going to be easy but it has been honestly overwhelming. However, I accepted all challenges that came along with this decision to pursue a graduate degree and I’m one step closer to reaching one of my goals. That brings me to the topic I want to focus on today- “Dreams don’t work unless you do”. One of my favorite quotes, I actually have a printed copy framed on my desk at work so I see it every day. Too often I hear people talking about all the things they wish they could do as if it was an unreachable dream.  Why? Give yourself permission to want what you want and act on it.  If you don’t believe in your dreams how do you expect others to believe in them?  We do ourselves a disservice when we look at someone and ask ourselves why it is so easy for them and so hard for me. It is not easy for them they did the work.

One of my best friends shared this with me while in college and it really resonated with me. Luck is when preparation meets opportunity. Nothing just happens. It is actually a pet peeve of mine when people look at others’ accomplishments and say “you are so lucky”. They are definitely blessed; however luck almost implies that everything they have accomplished has just happened by chance discrediting all the hard work.  It takes hard work, the part that people don’t share or even want to think about but it takes hard work. This is why I am very careful of how I express myself to others in regards to their accomplishments.  I applaud and recognize all the work put in behind the scenes. I also admire their tenacity and determination because it is so easy to give up but they chose not to.  We need to hold ourselves accountable to our dreams and show up every day to do the work required. So many of us want the end result without willing to work for it then wonder why they haven’t reached their goals or dreams. The only thing stopping us is ourselves. What you resist will persist. That ache your soul has for whatever goal or dream you may have will only grow it won’t just go away. It is these kinds of discomforts we need to pay attention to. The dreaming without doing the work is a comfortable discomfort.   That conformity is easy but will 100% not make you happy so why do it?

I was having a conversation with a coworker last week and she shared something that I really liked. We were discussing how many mothers describe motherhood as being so hard and unmanageable while on the contrary she said I make it seem as if it is easy. I want to point out that motherhood is DEFINITELY not easy; however I do try to have a more positive perspective daily. Don’t get me wrong- I definitely have my days, where I feel overwhelmed and negative but it is always temporary. I actively work towards having a positive perspective and remember to focus on the positives without discrediting my feelings. We are human, and it is definitely ok to feel these negative feelings it is when these feelings take over your overall state of mind and start to interfere with your view of reality is when it becomes a problem.  It is all about perspective. Expectation is the root of all evil. What I mean by this is that you have to be realistic with your expectations. Before you make a decision you have to look at all the possible outcomes both positive and negative. When you do this you are better prepared to handle both situations when they occur. Going back to what I was mentioning at the beginning of my post. It has been a challenge transitioning in to graduate school primarily because my daughter doesn’t always cooperate when I have to study or write papers but that is to be expected. Therefore, when this happens I don’t get as frustrated as I probably would if I were expecting for things to naturally flow.  It’s all about progress not perfection. As long as I see myself progressing I am okay with that even if it’s only little progress it is closer than I was the day before. There may be hurdles along the way but I am not expecting things to be easy. I am committed to everything I do but above all I am committed to myself and you can too. It is never too late to change the course of your life if it is not in alignment with what you desire.  I have changed the course of my life many times and will probably continue to do so as I discover myself more. Have a basic goal and plan. Once you have created a roadmap and know the desired destination be prepared to work your a** off. 🙂

With Love,

Dani

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Dreams Don’t Work Unless You Do Picture | Goal Digger Mug | Floral Arrangement (old)

Being Present

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What do these two words mean? I find this to be very important and essential to live a happy and fulfilling life.  On the other side of the token it is impossible to be 100% present when you are unhappy.  It comes down to finding the perfect balance of what is important to you and your obligations.  It also forces you to really look within and analyze the areas of your life you are over or under exerting energy.

This is something I have always struggled with since I am a known offender of overcommitting myself. However, it is something that I consciously think about and work on because I am aware that I can easily not be present with everything I have going on.  However, I cannot stress enough the importance to listen to your deepest desires and act upon them.  When you are in alignment with your essential wants and needs magic happens. You are cultivating and creating abundance in your life; you can give more, do more and be more.  It is only then that you can truly start living on purpose.

Currently I work full time, started graduate school, decided to start this blog and most importantly I am a mother and wife.  Am I crazy? – Well, I know that is debatable but I’d like to think not-lol.  Although, I have been called this many times in my life I can honestly say that I have zero regrets. I believe deeply in my abilities and challenge myself to achieve my goals and to a certain extent achieve the impossible or what people perceive the impossible. A consequence of this is unnecessary stress. I create unrealistic goals and fail to ask for help when I desperately need it. I am not 100% present when this happens. My challenge is knowing how to prioritize my time and maximize on my free time without taking away necessary quality time from other important areas in my life. Am I always successful? Definitely not.  I am human. It is still a learning process for me but so far I feel so incredibly blessed and happy.  I am filled with excitement and passion for everything I do and that fuels me. That allows me to live a life of purpose, to not just merely exist in the world. Most importantly this allows me to be present. To maximize any time I have with my daughter. My goal is for her to always remember me being there, especially in the most important moments of her life whether I was physically there all the time or not (quality over quantity). I have many passions in my life but she will always be my #1 passion.  My deepest desire is to be the best mom and role model for my daughter and I cannot do that if I am not happy with myself. That will only carry over to my own daughter by teaching her to not be happy with herself.

In my own personal experience, one of the most annoying things in becoming a mom is the unwelcomed criticism.  Motherhood should be a place where we should encourage each other yet there is so much criticism on how to parent, how we should be as parents, what we should do, and what we can’t do.  Yes, I am a mother but I am so much more than that. Quite frankly I hate the whole “I put my life on hold for my kids” mentality.  Your life is not put on hold, you have choices to make.  Your children are not crutches or excuses for you to not do what it is you want. Children enhance and give your life a whole new meaning.  Simply because your life took a different direction than originally planned doesn’t mean it was put on hold. It is phrases like this that make it so apparent that you are not listening to your deepest desires and that you are not in alignment with what your soul needs.  This is something to look out for. When you find yourself being negative and frustrated, ask yourself what is the real issue here? What can I do to cultivate and create abundance in my life? As I mentioned in my previous post energy is powerful, it is contagious. When you are not happy it spills over into your home life, your interactions with your kids, your work etc.  It is then that you find yourself unable to be present in any part of your life. I want to note that I am not in any way saying to ignore your responsibilities and simply do whatever you want to do. BALANCE truly is key. Finding this balance will lead you to happiness but you CANNOT ignore what your soul is trying to tell you. I hope this speaks to all you beautiful mommas out there because I know that pressure we can all feel. However, it is the best gift you can give your family- to take care of YOU.

I leave you here with one of my favorite and most comfortable summer dresses! Find it here. Currently it is sold out but get on their email list they are always restocking.  I found similar styles that I also like here and here (only $18!).

With Love,

Dani

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Photography by Steve Oum

Welcome to my world!

 

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Welcome to my site and first blogpost! I am very excited to finally go live. It has been a dream in the making and it is finally coming true. Honestly, I am not quite sure at this moment the direction this will take but I am looking forward to this journey. I hope to be able to inspire and learn from this experience. 

So, why start blogging? A while back I started following a handful of bloggers for a variety of reasons and discovered a desire and interest in becoming a blogger myself. I started with fashion and then moved on to mommy blogs when I was pregnant. I was rather fascinated with not only the fashion aspect but also was inspired by many bloggers, especially the mommy blogs. It had been a lingering idea to do this myself for a while until I decided to just do it. I didn’t want this to turn in to those “oh I always wanted to do that” type of thing, so here I am. 🙂

I am a sucker for inspirational, motivational, and positive energy.  I try to surround myself with this if not drown in it (figuratively speaking of course –lol). I say energy because it is not just people, places, or things. It encompasses a lot more than that. In my opinion, it comes down to the way you think and what you choose to focus on. This attracts things, people, and situations to you. Those who know me well know that I am extra passionate on women empowerment and that passion has only increased with becoming a mom. This is the perfect space for me to hopefully be able to share my experiences as a mom, woman, graduate student, wife, and ultimately an individual living in our day and age.  I want to share some of my budget friendly outfit ideas, experiences in being a new mom, juggling my home life and career but ultimately inspire women to push through society norms and be whatever it is they desire.  It is not an easy road at all and at no point do I want to imply that it is easy being a mom, student, woman or whatever it is you all are. However, I feel that we are conditioned by our society to give in to our fears and not our deepest desires. The greatest limitations we have are those that we create in our own minds.

Feel free to comment. I realize that we are all going to have a different opinion and I welcome it but I am more of the embracing everyone’s differences with love and encouragement – especially in motherhood. I don’t want this to be a space for debate or rude comments so I just ask that you are respectful. I will also be writing a post once or twice a month named “real talk” where I answer any questions you all may have. So feel free to send over your questions or ideas on what topic you want me to focus on next.

I leave you here with one of my favorite looks and something extremely affordable. Who doesn’t like to feel sexy? These are my favorite heels at the moment and I found a similar style for only $20 here. This dress can be dressed up or dressed down (which is why I love it). I also found some affordable ones here and here. Definitely a staple in your closet and the best part is that a black dress never goes out of style. Lastly, this choker is simple and classy. Love the elegance of it and the accent it gives to this outfit.

Check out the links. Until next time.

With Love,
Dani

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Dress | Shoes | Choker

 Photography: Sajinistphoto